We live in a society that focuses on and reveres instant gratification and external appearances. Advertisements reveal a shiny new car and promote we can have it…NOW. So, with feelings of intoxication about looking good, caution is abandoned and finance sought, even when funds are low. Advertisers spend hundreds of thousands of dollars convincing consumers that this new "toy" will bring happiness, joy, peace and contentment. Of course it doesn’t.
Similarly, we’re often sold on the idea, primarily through the media, that we should look good to impress others. Our appearance will duly impress — even in the absence of having done any "inner work" to focus on who we are and what we want to be. All of this is beginning to leave people feeling empty, rootless, and searching for something "more."
The thing is, though, all of this "external" stuff, whether material items or striving to "look good" to impress others, is an empty pursuit. That doesn’t mean these things can’t be enjoyed for what they are, certainly, but they won’t give you the life you want. For that, you have to do some deep soul- searching, some "inner work," and get in touch with yourself so that you determine who you are now, and who you want to become.
Getting to know you first and foremost is key to starting this new path to fulfilment that has nothing to do with external gratification. Once you know who you are, you can set goals to becoming the very best of who you are. If you’ve been one of those "instant gratification" folks who think that shiny, new things can fill the void, take a look at why.
Chances are you’ve got some emotional emptiness that needs to be addressed and fulfilled. It doesn’t matter whether that emptiness comes from the present, or occurred in the past. You distract yourself from this emptiness by trying to buy more or to "look good." But of course nothing is going to fill that void. Nothing, that is, except YOU.
You’ve got to figure out what you’re lacking in your life and supply it for yourself. This is where you begin to construct your life, so that your values, actions and goals are commensurate with what YOU want, not what you think the world wants to see from you. Begin small, by sitting down and determining where you are now, and where you want to go. Write everything down so that you have something to refer to. Write down small goals that you can achieve on a week-by-week or month-by-month basis. Make sure those goals fit with your values, so that you’re not going against what you truly believe in.
As time goes by, you’ll clarify your goals so that you get clear about what you want and act with greater and greater integrity. This is tough for a lot of people to do, because so many people aren’t used to focusing on what they believe in and then acting in line with those beliefs. You can do this, though, with a little bit of effort and time. As you pay attention to your goals and make your actions match your values, you’ll see that your life begins to simply fall into place. When you’re at peace with yourself and what you’re doing, you’ll see how much better everything is!
© 2010 Tania Usher International
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About The Author
Tania Usher is an internationally renowned marketing communication strategist, business coach, author, speaker and adventurer. Her company Tania Usher International is dedicated to providing communication expertise and innovative solutions to accelerate results and positive transformation for entrepreneurs and businesses worldwide. Tania aims to touch as many lives as possible with her authentic and ‘from the heart’ get NAKED approach to business where she strips back the hype to expose raw and uncut strategies for life, business and success.
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